Growing up, the woman in my life played both the role of being a Mother and Father. I have grown to have utmost respect towards woman as I had my mother as the King. Ultimately, I have lots of respect towards women that work hard and take the bull by its horns.
Just moving a little bit into the 20th century, I would like to believe that the challenges are not as much as the 19th century. Yes we still have stereotype towards what women can or can’t do, and with those in the public eye it is even a worse scenario. Women are leaders and stand firm in many circumstances. But, it is also important for them to understand that and respect themselves to conquer the world. With a lot of media influence, it has been hammered in our heads that women have the authority and ability to become who they want to be. A few years back, those abilities were mere fantasies of power. Fantasies that continuously assured girls and women that women’s liberation is a fait accompli and they are stronger, more successful, more sexually in control, more fearless, and more held in awe than they are actually. Those fantasies of power urged any women to pretend that they can be a CEO and achieve economic, professional and political parity with men.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Those fantasies have long gone, and today we have women achieving their goals through their own means support system. I was recently going through a local Zimbabwean paper and bumped into an article titled “No Sugar Daddies for me” The article highlighted on how Zimbabwe’s Socialite, Mbo Mahocs was allegedly accused of being involved with elderly men to sustain her dreams, which she plainly refused. When there is a successful beautiful woman, we can’t see past the fact that they worked and earned their status, the first thing that comes to mind is that they should be sleeping with the right person. American Singer, Rihanna is one perfect example of such stereotype at a global level.
What really caught my attention the most, is not the unrefined content of the article, but the fact that the female journalist herself has been brainwashed to thinking that a fellow woman sleeps around to reach her goals. This particular fact made me realised that the stereotype of women “not being capable” of obtaining their own dreams, is one that is not inscribed amongst man, but even some African women themselves have engraved it in their own heads. What happened to pure hard work, just like the King in my life, my mother? We still have such women and they have even increased in their multitudes.
There is no excuse or tolerance of any man kind thinking that when a woman achieves something, it is because they spread their legs wide open and got money for that. Nowadays we have woman Kings that stand up for what they believe in and act towards their dreams. In this modern world, great female leaders have increased that we can’t overpower them with our orthodox thinking.
Personally, I have lots of respect towards a lady who goes for what they want and work hard for it. Funny enough, when a man challenges me I make sure that I come out of that battle a winner. I do not mind when it is man of the feminine species. I have grown to know of individuals such as my own Mother, Big Brother Africa’s & Star Gist’s – Vimbai Mutinhiri, South Africa’s Sensation – Lira, Nigeria’s Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and a whole lot of women that are calling shots in board rooms and across the globe.
As a society, we need to liberate ourselves mentally from such thoughts and allow hard work to shine through whomever and from whatever background. How sad is it for a young lady, like the writer of that story to subscribe to that ideology. It makes it even worse when another women thinks such of another women. We are in a society where our feminine counterparts work harder than the masculine side. Hence, what they earn is due to their hard work and honesty in standing up for themselves and those around them.
March is the month I was born and Woman’s Month in mostly Southern African nations and other regions across the globe. I would like to celebrate every woman who has given light to their society. My next piece is an interview with one incredible African woman, whom you have fallen in love with. Let’s all hope that society will one day evolve past this innate desire to judge women on their appearances instead of their achievements.
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