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Being KHANYI MBAU vs. PRIMROSE CROUS! – “For him and his white friends, dating BLACK WOMEN was a status symbol”



I am SO not into tabloidy stuff but this recent article in the South African Sowetan caught my attention… there was something instructive about it [in a subliminal kind way]! Especially since it pertained us girls…Black girls that is.

So off the bat, I am not here to talk about one of South Africa’s top socialites, KHANYI MBAU or her nemesis at this point, PRIMROSE CROUS. I do remember though, during my vacay back home, driving past Khanyi Mbau in her infamous drop-top Yellow Lamborghini, hair/weave blowing in the wind, on my way to Sandton [don’t ask, I just know people, who know people]…anyway I digress!

Khanyi Mbau (l) & Primrose Crous (r) in friendlier times? – former girlfriends, BFF’s?

So what caught my eye with this whole drama (and it is alot of drama! Trust!) was the statement the man caught in the middle made! Ok, so let me first paint the picture for you…

Mrs. Primrose Crous (mom of 2, model, & businesswoman) – the wife

Mr. & Mrs. Theunis Crous (note his hand on her) – the married couple

The Crous Entourage (the cutest babies!) – the family

…and Khanyi Mbau (the self-proclaimed “Queen of Bling”herself) -  – the jumpoff (allegedly)

But we are so not here to talk about the scandal as reported in the Sowetan!

So not! *rolling my eyes* Coz never mind the black Lamborghini which Theunis bought Khanyi last year complete with personalised number plates but later took back when his wife, Primrose found out about their “romantic liaison”! Only to replace the Lamborghini with a BMW Z4 a few months ago! Or the R10,000 rent payments made for Khanyi’s upmarket crib in Hyde Park.

I do not condone adultery. It is not cool and most importantly, for me & my beliefs, the Bible outlaws it. However, they are adults & I am pretty confident that they can handle this matter…civilly & privately.

What I did find fascinating was that according to the Sowetan, Theunis Crous, a 51 year old White South African who owns a Walmer-based Ho Hup Construction Company with his wife, Primrose, said for him and his white friends [presumably in South Africa], dating Black women was a status symbol.

“When you are my age, dating a black young woman like Khanyi is a thrill. When we were growing up, having an affair with a black girl was forbidden. We loved them but we could not date them.”

Very insightful statement especially in post apartheid South Africa. As you know, race relations in South Africa are so complex and deeply rooted given the country’s checkered racial history. However space & time does not permit a revisit of South Africa’s history.

I did want to deconstruct the statement “dating Black women was a status symbol” in order to allow for an environment conducive enough for us to discuss the matter of race & dating in new South Africa. I wanted to delve deeper to ascertain what that meant for Black girls on the continent & in the diaspora, if at all!

Certainly, if that’s the case then this broadens the dating pool for both Black’s & White’s in South Africa. At least for those that date outside of their race.

However, I am not entirely comfortable with the “status symbol” aspect of Theunis’ contention on us Black girls. Far be it from me to deny Theunis or for that matter, any White South African male their “primordial impulses” that drive their selection of their women. But just race as a status symbol? Seriously? That’s almost like a repackaging of the old formula. What happened to attributes such as values, belief systems, those intangibles that transcend race. Again, I am well aware that men are visual, so I am not saying ignore completely the physical!

While it is fun to know that Black girls are the new Black! Yayee, but what does that really mean for us? I really have no problems with interracial dating, been there, done that myself.  However, there has to be more…for both sides. Otherwise, both sides are settling, one for race & the other for being a status symbol [and that gets boring after a while. Trust!]. And when the love boat is rocked, then a scandal of the above proportion erupts! Not pretty, especially if hearts & children are involved.

If this means that the dating dating scene has been reduced to a mere “status symbol”, then I am pretty sure, alot of us Black girls are not with that type of swagger! Rich White guy or not [I can just hear my BFF saying to me, Fa show me a millionaire & I will show you one happy chic *side eyes* to her!]

The swagger that I believe in, at least in terms of race & dating, goes beyond “dating Black women as a status symbol”. It is the type of swagger that affirms beyond your race, that you are beautiful, intelligent and wonderful and that you are worth fighting for [note that Primrose]. That you are worth more than being just a jumpoff [note that Khanyi]! That you look for a woman beyond her race as a “status symbol” and in marriage, you commit to her “til death do we part” [note that Theunis]

That is the swagger I can believe in!

Guys & dolls, please leave your comments below!

Heart ya for it!

ps…you have to agree that African girls are hot! Just sayin’

farai – who has written posts on Farai Today.


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  • Asanda Gobs

    they r looking 4 something which is wealth and happiness which guys their own age cant give them. they r tired of settling with nothing so money covers the unattractiveness

  • Asanda Gobs

    u seem angry. its sad to think that whites see as as the same and dont see beauty in blacks anyway dont worry of deep shits like those. we r beautiful, intelligent & so much more.

  • Samkefaith

    totally she lives on cardboards…..

  • Samkefaith

    well cheryl im a black woman also and have gatherd dat ol da da nice white man arent really intersested in us i mea luk at Sonia Booth and Booth.. Lira and Rhobin Khol,…. d list is endless now luk at ol this whities and tell me in they dont cum 4rm d same womb!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Zas

    Khanyi is cheap and desperate – what exactly was she thinking – she can neva compete with the likes of Primrose who of course is a real lady

  • timbuti

    I do'nt like khanyi mbau, I think she is about to die…..

  • Nosexwithwhitepeople

    MOney,MOney, Money and BRAIN-TRASHING.. how ANY African woman anywhere in the world could let some ol' nasty wrinkly pink racist (white supremacist) even touch her skin, let alone stoop to lay with one and allow his recessive genetic seed to wipe out her African genes & chance of reproducing beautiful black children? UGhhhhhh!! DISGUSTING!

    Seems to me that both of these women whored for trinkets. These old white pigs would sleep with anything crawling so long as it was black.. including men. Many white people have a fascination/obsession with black sexuality- regardless of gender.

    Having sex with non-white people is one of THE MOST POWERFUL WAYS that racism (white supremacy) is maintained. These types of tragic arrangements in no way shape or form eliminate racism (white supremacy). White men have been raping & having sex with non-white females around the world for 1500 years and the racists ( white supremacy) STILL LIVES! KEEP IT BLACK, BLACK WOMEN!!! Stop sleeping with the enemy.

  • Nosexwithwhitepeople

    I am QUITE POSITIVE, that just as the laws against miscegenation and intermarriage never stopped a white male in the United States from raping many, many, many black females ( children and adults)- as well as the boys- yes indeed!.. It likely never stopped those nasty pigs you have in South Africa from raping or seducing black women there.

    White people make laws to keep non-white men from being with white females and the power structure of white supremacy (racism) being disturbed. Meanwhile they run through and adulterate the offspring & desecrate the wombs of as many non-white (black) women as they can.. after all, ISN'T THAT WHERE YOUR “COLOR-ED”, meaning 'used to have color' buffer class comes from?

    This is a trick whites have been using on Africans for OVER 6000 years. Read more about it in Chancellor Williams “Destruction of Black Civilization” in pdf form..google it!
    Read the chapter called, “The mulatto problem.”
    You can also learn how both racist man/ racist woman use SEX as a weapon to keep black people mind-trashed and victimized by listening to this show, http://blogtalkradio.com/victim-of-racism it is VERY CONSTRUCTIVE!!

  • Malondikoshi

    no guy primrose is very hottttt.Khanyi would have sticked with Mandla and empowered him to be successful,since her name was already dragged in the mud for dating an old man.she should have loved him more and supported him everywhere to maintain the riches.

  • Sweet brown sugar

    You no what I agree with you, on the other hand I am not a fan of interacial dateing. For many reasons I wont talk about it now. But for example this black woman I see in the picture looks like the wannabes I see alot of. Black on the outside but trying to be the next cindy crawford ummmm I wonder WHY. She is very beautifull but they say the truth will always be realived it seems to me she is a Slave and her husband is her white master sister why dont you wake up and smell the coffee YOUR BEING PIMPED.

  • coco

    So true

  • Randyjjackson

    Thats just weak excuse its not good enough. SORT IT OUT FOR FUCK SAKE.

  • sister for real

    Omg You think exactly like me nuff respet to you. Thank you someone out there gets the point I try to make.

  • Ex-American

    You seem very bitter NOSEXWITHWHITEPEOPLE, and pretty well informed about the whole situation. What would you have people do? What about people who have had a normal interracial relationship in South Africa when both of them are just normal people in normal careers? Are you saying that it is not normal for people of differant races to fall in love, get married, have kids and leave a normal life? I say it is, except maybe for people like you who would point and stare and make unkind comments, etc. We all fought for the right to have freedom of choice. Granted, there are still lots of negative aspects surrounding interracial relationships in this country, but some of us actually go the extra mile. You would probably have me tell my wife's family that I want the Lobola back…… Know what? You are AS racist as those styreotyped white men you describe in your comments – probably worse. South Africa can do without primative mindsets like the one you advocate. Grow up and get real please….!

  • Bolton H05

    Both the ladies are stunning sexy.They are woman, not defined by colour.It is stupid to act

    like a Zuma or Maswati.To go out with a lady like this is no status symbol, because like most

    of these comments, RSA people is to backwards racist.Yes all colours.Who is the enemy?Your

    sick head is the enemy.These men splash a lot of many on these ladies and all of them enjoy the

    comfort.Why is it acceptable for so many black men to treat thear woman like property which they change very often.Is it OK.Henry Bolton

  • enhle

    ukhanyi akayeke amadodo amadala

  • IDOLMAKERS

    THIS GOES TO ALL OF YOU, WHAT CRAP IS THIS ABOUT BLACK AND WHITE WHEN WE HAVE A NEW DEMOCRACY, MIXED COUPLES IS A TWO SIDED DECISION FOR EVERY INDIVIDUAL TO LIVE UP TO THEIR OWN DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS. IT BURDENS YOU ALL COS YOU HAVE'NT BEEN THERE. APARTHEID IS LONG TIME GONE AND SO IS THE OLD LEGACY OF WHITE SUPREMACY. EMBRACE THIS NEW DEMOCRACY TO INSTILL PEACE AND HARMONY WITHIN OUR NATION IRRESPECTIVE OF WHATEVER THE DILEMA'S ARE THAT FACES US AS A NATION. IF WE ARE DISTANT TO BECOME A SO CALLED MIXED RACE THEN SO BE IT. GENDER EQUALITY AND RACIAL PREVERANCES CANNOT BE JUDGED BY PUBLIC SCRUTINY AND TORRID COMMENTS. FOR THEIR IS A GOD THAT SEE ALL, LET NO MAN BE JUDGED . ALLOW PEOPLE TO LIVE THEIR LIVES WITHOUT BOMBARDING THEM WITH THIS CRUPPLESS SLANDER AND ACCUSATIONS. SPEND YOU'LL TIME BUILDING A NEW LEGACY FOR ALL OF OUR CHILDREN TO BE HAPPY, DO NOT DEMORALISE. LET GOD BE THE JUDGE FOR WE ARE ONLY MANKIND. WHY DO YOU WANT TO SEE UNHAPPY FAC ES WHERE YOU WALK, LETS TALK ABOUT BUILDING THE ESTEEM OF OUR NATION AND BE PIONEERS FOR OUR NEW DEMOCRACY. STOP BEING A VICTIM AND BE PROUDLY SOUTH AFRICAN.

  • MAC HARRIS

    GOD BLESS YOU FOR YOUR WISDOM. SAY NO MORE, YOU HAVE JUST PUT CLOSER ON THIS TOPIC. THANK YOU FOR BEING A MORAL CITIZEN.

  • Miss T

    Engelin, you dont have to be that personal…we are all made beautiful, it depends according whose standards….lets spread the love not hate

  • Reituemtsi Motaung

    Well, to Lesegomatjila, Show me any black man who cheats on his wife or girlfriend with a better looking woman than his wife or girlfriend, I think all sistas out there will tell you that at least khanyi and Primrose are both similar with body and class, even though primrose has more class than Khanyi. A black man wil live his wife for a domestic worker who is either fatter than the wife/ even skinnier than the wife or uglier than the wife. So it seems to black man too, Woman look the same, at least Coruse chose around the same line.

  • Z Makhoba

    Gal you say it all that's my words thank you for that know i don't have to say a thing thank you sista

  • Katey

    i love Khanyi!!!

  • Katey

    leave Khanyi alone. show me 1 woman who wud say no to R1000, so le nyakla a tlogele a billionaire? nee fok, fuck u who's judging her mahn!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • posh

    thanx khanyi,u da real biach!!!!

  • Mazandy

    as far as i know khanyi mbau is just a bitch, a prostitute!!!!!! shez not h't. na!!!na!!! Na!!!! ask me .

  • Vuyooooo

    Hayi mbau, you r the real deal mchana, muti or no muti!!!!!!!!

  • PRECIMASSY

    YES WE ARE HOT ND 4 DA RECORD I LOVE KHANYI MBAU 2 DEM BONE… I WANA B LYK HA

  • Ncebo

    as long as the women reduce themselves to the point where they r mere assets then they will be used as status symbols something for the whities to play with and throw away when they get bored.I bet even in the bedroom the are degraded even more they probably swim in his poo

  • Nbaleka

    I lv u kanyi cc

  • Magwashuam

    Dis dude is wealthy and wana spend it on black women. natin wrong with dat………………

  • Kearabetswe

    khanyi i just like her so much she mean bussinness , i wish i could meet her , i really like her so much , we share the date of birth, same age and she leaves her life to the follest.

  • zazallicious

    u totally ryt bt if the feeling is mutual dan wat da heck lol!!!!

  • Anonymous

    I’m happy to see that South Africans are eccepting inter-racial relationships. But mostly it’s between reach white male and an avarage black women. I believe this is leaving and loving. It’s very rare to see a black man and a white women.

  • mpumie qaukeni

    i think khanyi mbau has destroyed some thing worthwhile…its not fair realy when people take the courage and effort aswel to build their families and suddenly when things are all good and its their happiest moments someone comes up ant destroys everything…primrose is beautiful more than khanyi and i think khanyi is using demons in all this but we praying that everything between primrose and theunis goes back to normal and you will be left with nothing wena khanyi mbau..nxa uthanda imali…u steal other people’s husbands with what ever remedy you are using…you not pretty khanyi just thank god there ins make up..

  • Dumisanidaniels

    khanyi she’s so argly but sisi you rock my world im more likly hundsume than you.but girl i wld love 2 spend tym with or talk 2 you.i wil ril love tat. like truly spekng she’s gogeous col me if you sees tis 0788559086 or any1 can help plz col tis number im 25 years of age

  • Cute

    This gal is crazy, she does not know what is good for her.She always chasing other peoples’ husband and Primrose is more beautiful than khanyi.Hey woman stop ukubhidliza imizi yabantu and get a life. Akuzame to spend your time with your child, giving your child some love. what kind of mother are you.grow up!!!! if you dont stop doing all these things, one thing for sure, soon you will go for therapy……..i’m giving you four years time from now….

  • Phindy

    iyoh hugo she is thanks to make-up..Primrose is more beatiful and classy shame…i dont know why married man do that after all they’ve been through with his wive eish all the hard work for some &%#%@ to come and destroy it….eish you man i dont know why you’re not satisfied with what you have…..*Pissed*

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  • Noks

    Lol @ NFS “bathathe skim” he he you rili are a fan.

  • missG

    lol…yes she’s hot i’ll give her that much but let her come near my man…o tlo nyale
    nna nkase mo lese

  • MM

    You make an intelligent and insightful argument, Farai. I am in total agreement with your sentiments.

  • Nmdamba

    i defentaly have to say that khanyi is way better looking then that gurl man she aint that pretty well not like khanyi mbau yah hear and get that itsz me talking NOM BLING FAB SLASH SLI yah aint pretty BITCH fuck dis man

  • Cheshirecat

    Hello people,

    A very interesting article Farai, thank you for your sharp wit & wonderful rhetoric!

    I have to agree with the reader that said people should ignore this Theunis Crous, because the more attention you give him, the more successfull YOU make him. Ever heard the saying “there is no such thing as bad publicity”? Look at Chris Brown, who beat the crap out of lovely Rihanna, yet somehow he still manages to make a living as an entertainer . . . because he has received so much press coverage that EVERYONE knows his name, whether you like him or not!

    My opinion on the matter is that everyone is entitled to make the chioces that make THEM happy. If Primrose wants to be with this man, then leave her to it. Please stop with this racially propped up bullshit, I know that this Theunis idiot started it, but don’t sink to his level by propagating it further. And that is the lesson we need to take from this article – you can be sure that Theunis (and his ilk) will most certainly continue to say things like this because of the fact that he is a DUMB SHIT! Want any further proof? His wife is amazingly beautiful and he still f*cked her around . . . you have to be incredibly stupid to do that to your life partner!

    I want to state a matter of fact : you cannot generalise people by their skin color! I am white SA woman of english descent and I do not think that all black people look the same (see previous comments) and I most certainly do not think that they are unattractive. I think these 2 (I think Primrose is more beautiful than Khanyi by miles) women are absurdly beautiful and that is a measure of status for him to have both of these women actually fighting for his attention. Any man would give his left nut to have even just 1 of these women on his arm, and here is this old fart who has both of them! Ofcourse it is a status symbol, it would have been whether they were white, black, red or yellow!

    Ladies – what I am about to say to you should not be news to ANY OF YOU, but there are a lot of guys out there who are selfish, arrogant pigs who only care about their own immediate gratification. I do not say there are no good men left, but boy o boy are they tough to find! I don’t think this old morons comment was fair, he should have said “to a man my age, having an insanely beautiful wife, and then still having another young beauty queen chase after me is a status symbol, my friends all think I am the “man”!” This is actually what he really meant, but tried to cover up his inadequacy by making it a racial thing.

    Nuff said.

  • Member

    It is with a lot of disgust to still see people who think like you do. Not that I agree with men who disrespect their wives but there’s a lot of white men out there who cares and treat their wives/gfriends for that matter with utmost respect. We need not be emotional about things but should still be rational in our thinking. We need to dispel the myths of years gone-by and start living our lives without judging other people and exercise tolerance.

  • PHILLIP

    SHE IS TO HOT TO HAVE A FAKE BOYFRIEND

  • Asande38

    love khanyi or hate her she’s still on top of you

  • nelly

    that is total crap i wish they do it to u so that u feel the pain; iskim sakho is a gold digger she is not a women enough who can stand on her self ;she does’nt have life with men

  • Nasi

    im one of Khany Mbau’s number one fan, and have to say that love/hate her she doesn’t care. dont hate coz you cant afford.

  • Tluv

    I would just like to say that Theunis Crous is bad to the bone. He’s spoiling these women with everything most women can only dream of .. while his poor employees at HoHup Construction are suffering on minimul wage, lucky if they even get paid on time to look after their families. While Crous and 1 of his women are jetting off around the world, his employees are looking for money to put bread on the table because Crouse has exhausted the company account!!! To make things even worse, he is now firing all the employees because they are “complaining” because their salaries were not paid in .. What normal person on this earth would not “complain” if they were not getting paid??? HoHup brings in the money, is it not right to look after the people who are making YOUR money? Remember that the wheel is round, it does turn!!

  • Mo

    It’s funny how people go on about BLACK and WHITE. In the end, people got their own taste. Because you hate other races, doesn’t mean we should all hate. If you leave by the “Politics”, yo life ain’t going nowhere. I will never leave in the past, cause it’s just a waist of time and energy. I will never hold back, regardless of which race i’m attracted to.

    Khanyi got the looks ( I give her that), but not the brains, and no self-respect. To me, she’s just another clown spicing up the papers. She has been around so much money, and what does she has to show for it, Nada (That’s the brain part). A person who respect herself will never go around, opening her legs to Tom and Dick, just to get a bracelet. Her life is all in the papers, and i don’t see how that benefits her. And for those who envy her, “Have you lost your mind ?”. You can ask around who Khanyi Mbau is, and those who know, will tell you “She’s just some chick sleeping around for money”. Where’s respect in that, where’s dignity in that. For those who were at the J&B MET, how many people were actually throwing themselves around Khanyi……???? Take your time, i’ll wait for your answer……….. Still waiting……………… My point exactly. She has gone out of fashion and it’s not funny. If you treat yourself like a bubble-gum, you will lose the taste like one.

    As for Primrose, “Classy, elegant, Smart, Beautiful, And a well-natured African Girl”. I see her as someone who knows where she’s going. In-spite of everything, understand what is to love someone. She’s kids and understand what a family is. With all the money she has and stand to get if she was to divorce, one would say, she should have divorced the guy. But then again, she’s so smart that she understand money is not everything. I remember every time Khanyi would pull a stunt, and she’ll come up and say that all she does is to pray for her husband to realise how much damage he’s causing and for Khanyi to realize that she destroying a happy family, and that deserve some serious RESPECT. She knows who she is and she doesn’t give in to tribulations that easily. She respect and love herself so much to compete with a fool. So many people advised her to divorce her husband, and she stood by what she believed in.

    And that’s the type of women ya’ll should look up to.

    As for Khanyi, i still hope that one day you’ll realize that your lifestyle is taking you nowhere so fast, because you’ve already started to be a Has-Been. And i wonder how many people (your followers) will give you a bread-crumb when you hit rock bottom.

    Think about it, you got nothing to loose.

    Primrose, keep on leaving the way you leave, be an example to women who are willing to give real love a chance, thus showing that family comes first and in the end, love always conquer.

    That’s me…
    MO